so owen is completely capable of going pee in the potty all by himself but he refuses (to the point of crying and tantrums). And so, this photo illustrates how we are handling it. perhaps not the best way, but it seems to be working -- i haven't helped him yet today!
you'll also note there's the issue of poop in the potty on that sheet of paper too. He's not so eager to do this one, but we're working on it. if anything would motivate him, it's cool characters from the movie Cars, waiting for him. here's hoping.